Life fully surrendered to God

I used to asked a spiritual counselor this question. "I was engaged in conversations with friends who are in the same faith as I am and it was brought up to me that I was being legalistic/judgmental about certain issues and I want to know whether I am being legalistic/judgmental or am I merely obedient to the Lord?". And Her answer was... your intentions are simply to encourage people to do the will of God which is found in the Word of God. Hours after I heard that wise counsel I had this strong desire in my heart and was so "fired" up to be diligent to study the Word of God because I came to a realization that I can lead people astray if I didn't give them good counsel that can only come from the bible (point #1 below) and counsel I learned from those who are wise (point #3 below).

Something to ponder on .... (from Quick Scripture Reference for Counseling Women)

Determining God's Will in a Situation
1. Never make a decision contrary to the Word of God.
Deuteronomy 5:29, Proverbs 4:25-27, Isaiah 55:8, James 3:17

2. Determining God's will involves prayer for self and prayer of others for you.
Colossians 1:9-11, James 1:5

3. Determining God's will involves the advice of those who are wise.
Proverbs 11:14, Proverbs 15:22

4. Determining God's will involves avoiding sin.
1 Thessalonians 4:1-5, Ephesians 5:15-17

5. Determining God's will involves thankfulness as God leads.
Psalm 20:4-5

6. Determining God's will involves proceeding with a yielded heart.
Proverbs 3:5-6, Jeremiah6:16, Romans 12:1-2, James 4:13-15

7. Remember, God is sovereign and has a plan we can have confidence in.
Isaiah 25:1, Isaiah 42:16, Jeremiah 29:11, Psalm 138:8, Jeremiah 10:23-24

8. The past is full of examples of God's plan being carried through.
Isaiah 14:24, 27, Isaiah 43:13

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All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness , so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.
~ 2 Timothy 3:16-17 (NIV)